That’s the allure of the arse.īut if porn and peer pressure are only half the motivation, what’s the rest? I got sex therapist Mike Lousada to break down men’s fascination with the hole-y grail of sex. Yet when I started university – a time before a phone could send a photo let alone stream PornHub – guys’ drunken banter still involved cheers of “Up the bum, no harm done!” The irony was that most were virgins and had little idea how to handle a vagina, heaven forbid anything more complex. Over the last six years, PornHub has reported a 78% increase in the number of searches for anal clips. “It’s all that internet porn men are watching,” I hear you cry – and, yes, true. Only, why do they? And why don’t we? I know plenty of women who’ve tried anal play, but I don’t know a single one who initiated it – or who’d admit to it without that other essential lubricant, wine. But the male goal is the same: they want in. Others are as unsubtle as the pile of junk mail flyers that stumbles through your letterbox every week. There are the curious gents, gently investigating if the key fits. I do not know a heterosexual woman alive who has not, at some point, experienced a partner trying to use her backdoor instead of the front.
